15 Phrases Narcissists Use to Manipulate and Control

People with narcissistic personalities only care about themselves and do not budge about what others think. With all their mean nature, they are also excellent manipulators, knowing how to get things done. They use several classical phrases or new versions to control others entirely. Some of those phrases are. 

1. You're the Only One I Trust

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Narcissists are clever people. They occasionally use sugar-coated quotes with negative comments for manipulation so that you won't doubt them. This sweet phrase is the one everyone wants to hear, but for narcissists, it is nothing but words without emotions.

2. That Never Happened

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Their best tool is to deny all the claims you make to feel dominated in the situation, so they use various versions of this phrase, particularly this one. They want to portray you as a person who is not in a sane mind and follows this kind of pattern repeatedly.

3. I'm the Only One Who Understands You

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Egotist knows how to control others by highlighting their weaknesses. If you have trouble being understood, they use such words to ensure that you depend on them for emotional support and make you think no one understands you better than they do. 

4. You're So Insecure

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Winning over someone is easy. You have to make them feel worthless, and that is precisely what narcissists do. They use this kind of phrase to highlight that you are the reason for everything negative, but in reality, they are the ones who are insecure about themselves and want others to feel the same, even worse, so they can feel happy and supreme.

5. Everyone Is Against Me

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There is no better manipulation trick than playing a victim in situations that get out of control. Conceited use the victim cards often. They will try to make you feel wrong about confronting them and blame you for not treating them well. Doing this lets them take control as you value their emotions while abandoning yours.  

6. You'll Regret This

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After playing all their card, if they think they are still failing, narcissists turn toward abuse. They will use such words to show they are the real ones in power. If you step out of line, things will become bad for you, and if someone has been subjected to emotional or physical violence in the past, then they quickly get scared of this Machiavellian.

7. You're Always Trying To Control Me

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Multiple narcissists have the habit of blaming their actions on others as they don't want to accept their mistakes and wrongdoings. Their horrible deviousness will make you question your actions. Egotists play blame games to belittle you, which gives them more might over you. 

8. You're Overreacting

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By saying this or using similar phrases, narcissists give you a stop call from portraying your emotions. They will tell you that you are overreacting or being too sensitive about a particular situation that will confuse you about your thoughts, which is precisely their motive to assert emotional command over you.

9. You Are Responsible for This 

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Every person is responsible for their actions and not others, but narcissists think otherwise. They will blame all of their negative outrages on you. It's the classical weapon they always use. All of this leads to insecurity and self-blame, which destroys a person's mental peace.

10. Can't You Take a Joke

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Narcissists feel good and happy after hurting others' sentiments in the name of joking. On top of that, if you try to cross-question them or tell them it was more of an insult, they will shift the blame on you by saying you are too dense or lack a sense of humor, etc., which is a significant sign indicating their cunning behavior. 

11. Don't Spend Time With Them

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Megalomaniacs try to exert complete supremacy. They will even try to push you away from your friends and family so that no one will be there for your support except them, which gives them complete freedom to manipulate you however they like.

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12. If You Liked Me, You Would

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Most of their manipulation is based on guilt-tripping you into doing something they desire, even if it's against your will. They often quote these words to show that you are not good enough to understand their emotions and force you to do only things they like. 

13. How Could You Abandon Me After All I've Done for You

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Narcissists do not let their victims go quickly. They try to use every tactic to keep you from moving forward in life without them. They will question your loyalty or tell you that you are selfish for leaving them after promises of forever to make you feel guilty.

14. You're Lucky To Have Me

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They try to gain control over others by telling them things that make them feel worthless. Then they tell you you're lucky enough to have them in life, which means that you are not even worth having someone good for yourself, so you should be grateful for having a self-centered person by your side.

15. No Wonder No One Likes You

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Narcissists use this opportunity for their benefit if you are the one with few people in your social circle. In most of the arguments, they will question your capability of being liked, which can lead to low self-esteem, and that's what they were up to all along, making you feel less to have more authority over you. 

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