FELLAS! Listen up. Here are frugal gifts you can give that special lady in your life.
Attention. All dudes listen up. This is the one video you're going to need your complete ultimate gift giving guide for your wife or your girlfriend if you don't know what to give them for their anniversary, for their birthday, for just because those are the best kinds of gifts, the dress, because gifts.
Here's the guide here. Five different things to think about and items and things and actions to do that every single female. Well, like at least one of them ladies, if your man does not know how to buy you a gift, send them this video right now. Firstly, the five concepts we're gonna talk about are called the love languages.
It's written by an awesome guy. Chapman. Chapman. Chapman, yes. Chapman wrote it and fi it's the five love languages. You got to figure out which one your lady is and how she operates. There are five of them, and we're going to go over each one of them and how you can give gifts and do things according to those languages because the route is if you came, if you continue doing something for someone or giving someone something and they're not receiving it.
That's your issue, dude. That's you. You figure it out. You gotta figure out what the other one does and speak their language. If I start speaking in Spanish, probably nobody would start understanding me unless you speak both languages, good for you. However, warning their language is up the up most important.
It's so important, and these languages are going to be the key to giving you an awesome gift to your lady. First one is quality time. What are her hobbies? Does she like art? Does she like going to museums? Does she like watching TV shows on Netflix? Whatever it is, you got to figure it out and don't just have her do it, do it with her.
So if she likes to bake, put on those mittens and put it in the oven, put up, turn on the oven, participate in that. It's, it's great when someone says, yeah, you can go do your thing and have fun, but it's something totally different. When you take a role on say, let's, let's do it together. There's something so profound about the word we and the phrase, let's do it together.
You do it is you, Matt, building intimacy. Let's do it. Wow. That brings everything together. Figure out what the hobbies are and do them. And here's the thing. Put your phone on silent. Put it away. Not in your pocket, not in your jacket. Somewhere far, far away and give 100% attention and make lots of long, awkward eye contact.
Well, hopefully it's not awkward, especially in a relationship. It shouldn't be awkward, but make lots of eye contact and listen, listen, listen, and don't just passively listen, listen, and follow up with questions and paraphrase what's going on. So quality time is very important. And if your lady has it.
Spend time with her with no distractions whatsoever. Has she talked about taking a trip, going somewhere? Don't think about it anymore, but the trip request, the time off. Everybody loves a pleasant surprise. Everyone loves when someone else takes initiative as well. And as a dude, take the initiative, be the dude you want to saying, dude, be the man and lead by example.
Book that trip. Ask her the days off, and then give her a pleasant surprise that you're going to do it to Gether and same concept applies phone away, eye contact, 100% attention. That quality time is very, very important. Next one, acts of service. So these, these are things that you actually do with your hands and with your body, not with your mouth.
That's easy. That's the easy part. Well, not so easy sometimes, but that's the easier part, in my opinion. It's the doing stuff. What does she not like doing that she hate emptying the dishwasher. Empty the dishwasher every single time it goes off without even talking about it. Wash her car, clean her room, cook dinner with your hands, not just ordering takeout.
Check things off her to do list females. A lot of times they're very organized. At least the ones I have dealt with. At least more organized than myself. Figure out what her to do. List, whether it's electronic or physical, grab it and figure out something you can do on it and check it off. And here's the thing.
Here is the kicker that you have to do, or this is told the all for not do the thing without being asked. And when you complete it, don't say anything about it. Be silent about it. That is the toughest part because we want to go parade. Look at claimed your car, how nice it looks. No, no, no, no. Do not do that.
Clean the damn car. Don't do anything in regards to bragging about it or telling anybody about it. You don't want your left hand knowing what your right hand is doing. That pretty much means do things in secret. Do, do good things in secret, not the bad stuff. Do very, very positive things in secret. And if.
If they like acts of service, the wonder. Hmm. And it'll be a good thing. So do it without being asked and without telling or bragging about it to anyone. That credit goes to you alone and only to you. And this is my welcome to being a man. Ha, welcome. Yeah. It's not fun all the time, but it's about being a good leader, sucking it up, doing it.
Because all ladies, I think every single female I've ever met. If I were to ask them, do you prefer a weak man or a strong man? Everybody wants someone strong. Not because we're physically more strong, but strong in the sense that initiative and doing things the first time, just doing it, not whining about it, not thinking about it, but actually doing it and doing that act, acting upon it.
Don't just think about it. Do it. Go right now. Whatever it is. If they needed to do list, grab the to do list off the fridge, grab her phone, look at that, look at it. Wherever it is. Take one thing. Do it right now. Pause the video.
The next one is words of affirmation. I would say almost everybody likes us to an extent, but some people really, really need that comfort. And you got to figure out what are her insecurities, whether it be her looks, how she operates, whatever it is. Speak to those in an endearing and positive way. What is she really proficient in?
You should be really good at something. Make sure that that becomes the focus, the awesome things that she is really good at something, at many things. There's probably many, many things. People are good at, many, many things, but it on those things that she's really professional and make sure she knows about it.
If he's really, really good with other people. Say you are an awesome people person. Your interpersonal skills with others are spectacular and look up adjectives that are not just good or you're good at something. No, no. Throw that word out. Throw that word out. Find out words that are a little more powerful.
You are proficient in doing this. You are absolutely a marvelous person too. Fill in the blank, whatever. Those are, figure out what those really, really good proficiencies are. And a lot of times they're not hard to figure out. So figure out what she's really good at doing and speak to those and make sure those are the biggest deal in the world.
Would that being said, this is not going to be a continuous coddling session every single day. Oh, it's okay. The world sucks. And you're pretty, no, that's a coddling session that doesn't help anybody. And I'm all about. Refining your partner and making them a better person and helping them refine themselves into becoming a better person.
Cause we can't really force anybody to do anything besides yourself. However, in this case, a lot of times they just need comfort. They need a rub on the back, the things they're good at doing, and a lot of times that will encourage them to progress forward if that is not the case, if the rubbing the back in a proverbial sense and the words.
Are not encouraging them to be better, but becoming bitter. That's where you got to really think critically on what can I say differently? How can I. Act and lead by example in a different way that's going to encourage progress and not regression because the last thing you want is the words of affirmation to become a regressive act.
That's the complete opposite of what a gift is. Physical touch is the next one. This one is actually quite simple, but a lot of dudes told him they dropped the ball on it cause they think physical touch is just the part where they don't have any clothing on. But it's so much more than that to females.
It has to be a connection. It's not just a physical thing. So hold their hands in public, kiss her in front of people, in public, in front of her friends especially. So they're jealous. No, don't make them jealous, but make them know that she is very valued by you. And it's not just the kissing of the holding hands in public that makes them feel good.
That's not really the point. It's making them feel valued and knowing that this is my man and I know what he's up to. That security and that knowing is very, very important. This is a good one. Give her a long hug that lasts for way too long. I love doing this because sometimes people take like a three second hug.
I want to back out, but grab them and hold them tight. There's something about having a really, really long hug that really connects to people, and this is the really, really important one. I talked to you about all the time. When was the last time you gave your lady a massage? Or when, when's the last time you do gave you a massage?
And the answer is like utter, remember, give her fricking massage. Do it. People have a tough woman, have a ton of stress in their backs, lower back, upper back, everywhere. Well, calling YouTube after this video, after it's finished watching a little video search. How to give a good massage, watch the videos, watch a different video as much, many videos.
And implement it, do it, stop thinking about it and just do it. And then lastly, the whole reason for this video, gifts, gifts, gifts, gifts. And it doesn't always have to be a fancy Rolex or a brand new car. It can be different things. The first thing I'd encourage to do is thinking about the conversations you've had recently, has she talked about something incessantly that she can not get her mind off of?
And does she have an Amazon wishlist? I think everybody let everybody, a ton of people at this point have one of those. So figure out, hack into her account in a good way, or ask her, ask her for a wishlist, and if it's something really simple, just buy it. Be done with it. If it's something small and she just for some reason doesn't feel like buying it herself, buy it, be done with it, ship it to the home and be done with it.
Be creative. Create something. Even if you're like me, and the best creation you can do is stick figures and a heart and some cramps. Do it. It's the thought and the effort. In this case, that counts a lot of times. The effort means nothing. The actual means everything. But this effort acting upon you, going out of your comfort zone to create something for her, uh, that can warm a heart up so much.
Right? A card, a greeting card that says a lot of things that you enjoy about her, a lot of the things you like about her, a lot of things that you're looking forward to, the future, whatever it is. Physically mail it to her. Yes. Not an email, not a text message. No messages whatsoever. Bull a message, a text message, a literal written text message on a greeting card.
You can buy them for a dollar at the dollar store. And you can mail them, which costs about 50 cents. So we're talking about a tiny investment here, but that's small. Less than $2 investment can really go far, and I can guarantee next time you walk into her office or room or house that you're going to see that car in sun butter.
It's the small thing that really makes a big difference. And then lastly, buy a book from her favorite author. By book. Yes, reading is good, and if she likes to read novels, nonfiction, whatever it is, figure that out. And that's why you have the Amazon wishlist. Figure out what that author is by the book and just stop thinking too hard about it.
That's the thing. Dudes think so much about things. Stop thinking so much into these little things and just do them. If you have an impulse. And it's a good one. It's a positive one that's going to help sharpen each other or help you build intimacy with somebody, especially your partner. Do it. Stop thinking about it.
Stop. Just do it. And that's a common theme for all of these. Just do them. Stop thinking about it. Stop thinking about, it's not perfect. It's not this, and that's not that nobody expects anyone to be perfect and that they do. You need to be done with them, but perfection is not what we're going for. We're going for little tiny bits, little tiny acts, little tiny gifts that just help build intimacy and build comradery.
And build relationship. These are not huge things. None of this is groundbreaking. You've probably heard all of this before, but you probably haven't implemented it. And that's what this video is a PSA to say, act upon your intuition, act upon your impulses, and do them now. So those are a ton of frugal gifts you can give to your lady friend.
However, there's plenty more. I want to hear what you guys have done that has worked what has not worked. I want to hear both comment below. I want to see. The successes as well as the failures. Cause I know I have plenty of failures. So make sure to comment, like, and subscribe to the channel and I will, I'm looking forward to hearing from all your awesome gift ideas and I will see you guys in the comments section.