25 First Date Tips to Use This Summer

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Summer is an excellent time for first dates! 

The weather is warm and there are plenty of fun things to do. 

Whether you’re participating in hot girl summer or vetting to find your wife, here are 25 first date tips to use this summer.

For Women

Dress appropriately and for comfort 

On a hot summer day, the last thing you want is to be uncomfortable in your clothing. Choose something that you feel good in and won't make you sweat too much.

Tell a trusted friend where you're going

This is always a good idea, no matter what time of year you're going on a date. But it's essential in the summer when there are more opportunities for things to go wrong. 

Make sure you have a friend who knows where you're going and when you'll be back, just in case.

Avoid serious or controversial topics

You don't want to get into a heated discussion on your first date. Stick to lighthearted topics and save the heavy stuff for later.

Be on the lookout for red flags

This is good advice for any time of year, but it's essential in the summer when people are out and about more. If your date behaves oddly or makes you feel uncomfortable, trust your gut and end the date early.

Have an exit strategy

There are more opportunities for things to go wrong on a date in the summer. If you feel like things aren't going well, plan how you'll get out of the situation.

Know the reason you're dating 

Are you looking for a serious relationship or something more casual? Be clear about your intentions from the start to avoid misunderstandings later on.

Choose a neutral location

You don't want your date to feel like they're being interrogated. Choose a place that is comfortable and neutral for both of you.

Be fully present

 With the warmer weather and longer days, it's easy to get distracted on a summer date. But it's essential to focus on your date and really listen to what they're saying.

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Avoid oversharing

 You don't want to share too much on a first date. Stick to light topics and save the heavy stuff for later.

Be Aware of your body language

Your body language can say a lot about how you're feeling. If you're not into your date, try to avoid crossing your arms or fidgeting too much.

Know your deal-breakers

Everyone has deal breakers in a relationship. Be clear about what yours are from the start to avoid misunderstandings later on.

Don't hide your interest

 If you're interested in your date, let them know! There's no need to play games.

Be careful not to drink too much

It's easy to get carried away in the summer heat and drink more than you intended. But it's essential to be aware of your alcohol consumption on a first date. You don't want to say or do something you'll regret later.

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Be punctual

This is a basic rule of etiquette, but it's imperative when there are more opportunities for things to go wrong in the summer. If you're running late, call your date and let them know.

Put your phone on do not disturb

You don't want to be distracted by your phone on a first date. Put it on Do Not Disturb mode so that you can focus on your date.

Show genuine interest

One of the best ways to make a good impression on a first date is to show genuine interest in your date. Ask them questions about themselves and listen to the answers.

Compliment him  

Everyone likes to be complimented, so pay your date a genuine compliment.

Don't talk about other guys

Don't bring up other guys if you're interested in him. This is a sure way to turn off your date.

For Men

Make sure the conversation is two-way 

Don't make the mistake of doing all the talking on a first date. You'll want to get to know your date, so make sure the conversation is two-way. Use clever conversation starters to stimulate back and forth talking.

Keep cursing to a minimum

 You might swear more when you're nervous, but try to keep it to a minimum on a first date.

Dress to impress

First impressions are essential, so make sure you dress to impress.

Offer polite compliments  

Compliment your date on their outfit or hairstyle.

Be early

This is a basic rule of etiquette. If you're running late, let them know.

Don’t split the Bill

Women enjoy men who have resources to share. Pay the bill yourself. 

Follow up after the date  

If you had a good time, follow up with your date afterward. Don't wait days either. Make sure they got home alright and let them know you had a good time.

Don't talk about your ex

If you're not over your ex, don't bring them up on a first date. This is a sure way to turn off your date.

Avoid controversial topics

Avoid controversial topics like politics or religion. You don't want to get into a heated argument on a first date.

Make your intentions clear

Be clear about your intentions from the start. Don't lead your date on if you're not interested.

Don't let the date drag on

First dates should be around two hours. If it's going well, you can always extend it. But if it's not going well, don't feel like you have to stay longer than you want to.

Be respectfully touchy

You might want to hold your date's hand or put your arm around them, but make sure you're respectful. Don't do anything they're not comfortable with.

Don't brag about money or status

This is a turn-off for most people. If you're wealthy or have a high status, don't brag about it on a first date (or ever).

Final Thoughts

First dates can be nerve-wracking, but they don't have to be. You can relax and enjoy your dates this summer by following these tips. Whether you're just looking for something casual or something more serious, these tips apply to both scenarios, so pay attention.

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Claire started Femme on FIRE after struggling with the debt cycle and realizing that she had to create better habits to get out of it. She became inspired along this journey and now strives to help others achieve financial freedom as well. When she isn’t working on her blog, you can find her on the couch with a good book, cooking up recipes in the kitchen, or playing outside with her ducks.