Life throws curveballs. Life rains on your parade. Life is sometimes rather bitter and I love sweet things, so that sucks.
The most recent one was some feedback that I “harassed” someone and for that reason, I am not allowed to enjoy and frequent an establishment I once did.
The details are quite unnecessary to the story honestly. The fact of the matter is I made a comment that was taken in a way that I did not intend. And for that reason, I am now disallowed to visiting.
I take 100% responsibility for my actions. I do not regret anything in this life.
The fact of the matter is there is some validity to the allegation and for that reason, I am even writing this post because I have learned quite a valuable lesson.
The lesson I've learned multiple times in this season of my life is that even when I have 100% intent to enrich, encourage and empower all those around me there are some (I believe about 2% of people) who believe in their core that I have ulterior motives (selfishness). Talk to anyone who knows me a little and this will be debunked rather quickly.
However, even when I show 100% enthusiasm and authentic care for someone it can (and will) be perverted by a small percentage of humans. I'll repeat that even if you or I are 100% positive and only want the best in others there will still be someone on the other side of the fence doubting your authenticity. Yes, this world is INSANE. Get used to it.
Anyhow, the fact of the matter is I have concluded some things I will apply today.
1. ENTHUSIASM WILL STILL WIN 100%, ALWAYS
Even if only 98% of the population will initially accept this enthusiasm that just means their apathy is too great at that particular moment and they simply need more time to accept it. I'm not giving up on the 2% and neither should you. Show them 100% empathy and be patient with these people. Just because they are still living in a state of apathy does not make them any less than. Everyone is on their own journey at their own pace. Be patient.
With that being said I care about these 2 % so much that I am willingly to let them steep in their apathy. I will evoke change, it just may take a little longer.
Be okay with being provocative and being authentic. Those are the only people I associate with anyway. Being “politically correct” and simply evasive to conflict is nothing I deal with and you don't have to either.
Be desirous and willing for change and live each day with enthusiasm. You are alive and breathing. You're blessed.
2. IF YOU ARE A LOT TO HANDLE THAT IS YOUR BEST TRAIT
I was told all throughout my childhood “Max, you are a lot to handle.” I was demeaned for that for the first (nearly) two decades of my life. Now I embrace all the energy and use it for the complete benefit of unlocking the full potential of others and of myself.
Did Bill Gates create Microsoft with thinking he would sell a few hundred computers? Did Steve Jobs create the first iPhone to blend in or “stick with the trends.”
No, and no.
Those two examples among many I can name thought outside the box and had a vision greater than anything people around them could imagine.
In order to have ultimate success and supreme satisfaction, you are going to have to step out of the box and think creatively. And that almost always mean you will offend others with how you act, dress, speak, breathe… shall I go on?
Being “unboxable” may be your key to unlocking the safe where you true and full satisfaction exists. I have unlocked that safe and am living in the identity of how I will 100% satisfied. What's in your safe of untapped potential?
Be content with being “too much, too extreme, having too much personality or being too______ ” fill in the blank.
You are the tiger that others attempt to box up but the reality is they have put a cardbord box around a full grown tiger, who is hungry. Do you really think that box is going to last?
3. IF YOU HAVE INTENT TO BUILD OTHERS UP, 10X THAT EFFORT AND KEEP GOING
In recent years slandering and making the other guy look bad has become commonplace in nearly every place in life (I'm thinking politics…) Anyhow, if you have intent to build others up and help them with no selfish motives then DO THAT. Throw out the selfishness and give 100% effort in building others up. I promise, the more you do this the more you will build yourself up as well.
Be a source of encouragment, not the opposite.
4. HELPING OTHERS WITHOUT ANY EXPECTATION. GET THIS, WIN THE GAME
This is true service. Being a leader means putting all needs of others before yourself. This is selfless leadership and I am, I will and forever shall invoke this method of living in every area of my life. Whether it be in social settings, business meetings and when resolving conflict I choose service and sacrifice.
No, I'm not into demeaning myself or self-mutilation I simply believe this is the most authentic, genuine and best type of leadership that evokes true and lasting change in those around me. I'm all about top to bottom leadership. Service from the top down.
CONCLUSION: BE AUTHENTIC
Authenticity and the truth are always in style and are always going to be relevant. Be your true self and those who relate to you will connect with you.
Be the TRUE you. We already have enough hollywood look a likes. Do we need another?
Always Moving Forward,